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It can be difficult to talk about using condoms. However, you shouldn't let embarrassment become a health risk.

The person you are thinking about having sex with may not agree at first when you say that you want to use safer sex techniques when you have sex. It is helpful to keep in mind the reasons to use safer sex techniques, as well as possible answers to a partner's excuses.

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Answers To A Partner's Excuses Who Doesn't Want To Use Safer Sex Techniques

Following are some comments that might be made by a partner and some answers that you could try.


          EXCUSE

ANSWER

Don't you trust me?

Trust isn't the point, people can have infections without realizing it

It does not feel as good with a condom

I'll feel more relaxed, If I am more relaxed, I can make it feel better for you.

I don't stay hard when I put on a condom

I'll help you put it on, that will help you keep it hard.

I am afraid to ask him to use a condom. He'll think I don't trust him.

If you can't ask him, you probably don't trust him.

I can't feel a thing (or it isn't as sensitive) when I wear a condom

Maybe that way you'll last even longer and that will make up for it

I don't have a condom with me

I do

It's up to him... it's his decision

It's your health. It should be your decision too!

I'm on the pill, you don't need a condom

I'd like to use it anyway. It will help to protect us from infections we may not realize we have.

Putting it on interrupts everything

Not if I help put it on

I guess you don't really love me

I do, but I am not risking my future to prove it

I will pull out in time

Women can get pregnant and get STDs from pre-ejaculate

But I love you

Then you'll help us to protect ourselves.

Just this once

Once is all it takes

 

 

Reasons To Use Condoms

  1. Condoms are the only contraceptive that help prevent both pregnancy and the spread of sexually transmitted diseases (including HIV) when used properly and consistently.
  2. Condoms are one of the most reliable methods of birth control when use properly and consistently.
  3. Condoms have none of the medical side-effects of some other birth control methods may have.
  4. Condoms are available in various shapes, colors, flavors, textures and sizes - to increase the fun of making love with condoms.
  5. Condoms are widely available in pharmacies, supermarkets and convenience stores. You don't need a prescription or have to visit a doctor.
  6. Condoms make sex less messy.
  7. Condoms are user friendly. With a little practice, they can also add confidence to the enjoyment of sex.
  8. Condoms are only needed when you are having sex unlike some other contraceptives which require you to take or have them all of the time.