Anger is human, reasonable and should not be denied.
Anger can be damaging. It can interfere with your medical care and relationships. It doesn't matter whether it is anger at the world, your family, your doctors for not doing enough, at God or the universe for making you sick, or. at yourself for not living a healthy lifestyle to date.
On the other hand, anger can be useful if it pushes you to find the best medical care, research your options, take the necessary steps and/or comply with drug regimens.
It is best to do what you can to let go of anger. You may be able to do this by something as simple as writing in a journal, by doing art or otherwise expressing it.
Caution: do not displace your anger onto someone who is not to blame. If you do, apologize - and forgive yourself. It is not unusual for a person in unusual circumstances.
If you cannot make anger livable on your own, speak with a mental health professional.
A Few Tips To Help Deal With Anger
To help let go of anger, consider:
- Think about what is causing your anger. Perhaps writing about it will help bring the source to the surface.
- Try to put the reason for your anger into perspective. It may help to remember
- The old adage: "I wept because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet."
- That being angry at something beyond your control, or a feeling that you may have contributed to your current situation, is a useless waste of the precious time we have on earth no matter long our lives are. Also keep in mint that other people did or did not do the same things that you did, and they did not have the condition you have.
- If your anger is about a person, practice forgiveness.
Think about what you can do to feel better. For example:
- Change the subject.
- Lose yourself in an activity that takes your attention. Hopefully one that makes you feel good.
- Exercise, even if its only mild exercise. Exercise releases endorphins which make us feel better. (It also improves health)
- Talk about your anger with friends, family and other people going through a similar experience. Support groups can help, or consider putting together your own informal group of people similarly situated.
- If all else fails, seek help from a mental health professional (a social worker, psychologist or psychiatrist).